"The most common way people give up their power is by thinking they don’t have any." – Alice Walker.
Many people I have been working with have been experiencing very similar challenges in the work environment - dealing with difficult people and in particular, being assertive. Whilst it may feel that it is impossible to stand up to difficult people at work, being assertive is a skill that can be learned, and by starting with small, achievable steps you can build your confidence and begin to make changes.
Many women I am working with are perfectionists who are very hard on themselves, often down-playing their achievements and exaggerating their perceived failures - being over-critical of themselves and finding it difficult to quiet the voice inside them that tells them they are not doing their best. Add to this mix a workplace bully, who reinforces the ever-present internal messages of "I'm not good enough" and work can sometimes become an unhappy place.
I have had success in dealing with clients by raising their awareness of their propensity to criticise themselves, objectively analysing their achievements and strengths, defining their own behavioural values and using this as a model to move forward at work.
Change can only come from within. By being clear about who you are, your values and how you want to behave, you will begin to present differently to others and put in place clear boundaries and signals about how you expect to be treated.
If you would like assistance with workplace issues, or dealing with difficult people or being more assertive at work please don't hesitate to give me a call on 0400 429 811 or email me at firstname.lastname@example.org.
Alison Walter enjoys coaching others to success. Read some tips about changing your life in Alison's blog posts.